Signs of Dating Violence
Would you know if a friend is a victim of dating violence? Would you know if you were? Signs of abuse aren’t always physical or visible. You might not see the abuse or even know it’s happening, but there are signs you can look for. At the end of the day, trust your gut – if you’re worried about a friend or yourself, it’s probably for a good reason. You should talk to someone about it.
Here are some signs to look for that might mean your friend is in trouble and needs help.*
While most dating violence happens to girls, it can also happen to boys. These signs will apply for boys suffering violence as well.
- When your friend and her boyfriend are together, he calls her names or puts her down in front of others.
- He acts extremely jealous when she talks to other boys, even when it’s completely innocent.
- She apologizes for his behaviour and makes excuses for him.
- She frequently cancels plans at the last minute for reasons that are untrue.
- He’s always checking up on her, calling or texting her, and demanding to know where she’s been and who she’s been with.
- You’ve seen him lose his temper, maybe even break or hit things when he’s mad.
- She seems worried about upsetting him or making him angry.
- She’s giving up on things that used to be important to her, like spending time with friends or doing another activity.
- Her weight, appearance or grades have changed dramatically. These could be signs of depression, which could indicate abuse.
- She has injuries she can’t explain (broken bones, bruises, scratches), or the explanations she gives don’t make sense.
There are a lot of other warning signs, but this gives you a good start of things to look for. If you’re close friends with someone, chances are you’ll know when something is off. This might not always indicate abuse but it could mean your friend needs help or needs someone to talk to.